Feeling Isolated?

Were you born or do you know anyone born in:
1999, 1990, 1981, 1972, 1963, 1954, 1945, 1936 or 1927?

Most but not all people born in these years will have some emotional (or even perhaps even physical) experience of isolation.

Whether that’s being ostracised by a community or group, or simply missing the memo for the meeting, or feeling so very different from the rest of society….This can create some kind of loneliness for you.

This is not a type of loneliness which is the craving of company, it’s an icy cut, an abandonment, that can make you feel helpless and lost. Mute on how to voice all this. Unsure if there could be anyone who could possibly understand.

The theme in your birth date that signifies this is the pattern of winter which as we all know, is the time of hibernation, solitude, frost and snow.

But remarkably also in this pattern we have the “cure” as well.

Wintery people are often some of the bravest and most courageous people. They are able to draw on hidden inner resources to push through the feelings of helplessness.

Or maybe they’d use their intuition, their “psychic” abilities to find a way forward.

Or maybe, hardest of all, they’d trust and have faith they will be led to the right people.

If you have this pattern in your birth date, you are pre-programmed to have these experiences, either by your “filter” or behaviour that can “attract” these experiences.

In no way am I saying here that you are “doomed” or I am blaming you for your experiences because you have this pattern. This is not a fatalistic system.

It’s pattern. And a pattern is a pattern is a pattern is pattern is a pattern is pattern.

I hope you enjoyed today’s post, I’d thought I’d offer you an insight to the second part of my work – reading birth dates. Please note, I do not solely read birth dates. I read them in conjunction with the face.

A little dash of this, a little bit of that…

One of the most common obstacles I run up against as a face reader explaining her work, is this particularly western mindset of “either/or” or “all or nothing.”

What I mean by that is that sometimes when I explain a feature in it’s full meaning, as if someone is entirely an isolated nose, sometimes some people say “well I’m half of that so face reading doesn’t work.”

It’s more complex than that, and the only way I can really describe it is through food.

Sometimes when we bake a recipe we add all these different spices and ingredients in various amounts to modify the flavour.

That’s the key word here: modify.

So we have several different chocolate cakes:

One has more aniseed and chili.
One is made with frozen mash potato to give the sponge a denser texture.
And the last one is made with some kind of lavender infusion.

Tasting these three different cakes will yield three different experiences, despite being in essence a chocolate cake.

And It’s the same with people and their faces.

Replace the flavour of chocolate with the personality and features of the “queen.”

Then replace the modifications like so:

The aniseed and chilli becomes a queen with red hair and freckles.

The frozen mash becomes a queen with a domed forehead.

The lavender infusion becomes another queen with a long and bony nose.

Meeting these three different queens will yield three very different experiences of their behaviour.

The “flavouring” of red hair, a domed forehead or a bony nose will give them subtle changes despite being the same at the core.

So returning to my first point, cakes are not “either/or” and people are not!! They’re different and complex variations on the same theme.

The presence of a larger pattern in the face amounts to a larger amount of an ingredient, and one feature (like a dash of aniseed) can affect the overall unique meaning of a face.

If you ever find yourself reading one of those posts where I describe one feature fully, please note that I’m only fully describing one ingredient fully not the whole cake, and certainly not the spices.

This is because Chinese face reading is a HOLISTIC practice, I read the features individually and then together to see how they “dance,” “modify” to become something completely and uniquely you.

Apologies if this post was too advanced today, it was just something I kept encountering!

I explain this better on the about page of my website, https://circularfacereading.com/about-chinese-face-reading/, so if you didn’t quite understand this post, please read this

Red Hair

Do you have red hair like this girl?

There is huge difference between how red hair is viewed in the Western world and in Chinese medicine.

In western cultures, red hair has a tradition of being associated with temper. And so, “fiery” is a term interchangeable with anger.

Not so with Chinese medicine.

The colour red is associated with the emotion of joy.

And so in Chinese face reading this hair is indicative of someone who has an exuberant personality, who may be quick with a laugh or a joke. Or alternatively maybe someone who is very shy, as they wear their hearts on their sleeves.

Now what’s interesting is that it doesn’t matter if you were a born red head.

If you ever find yourself reaching for the red hair dye, maybe take a chance to notice if you’re craving more joy or fun in your life.

And if you have dyed your hair red, do you feel that it’s given you an extra joyful boost that you can’t quite place your finger on?

What do full upper cheeks mean?

Do you have prominent upper cheeks like this woman?

These cheeks are associated with the archetype of the ruler, a king a queen. Now when a king gives orders, people follow it through. There is no arguing or second guessing. And it’s the same with you.

Because of this you have greater likelihood than others to end up in a position of authority, easily running a household, a business or a company. As these cheeks give you the ability to say what is needed and communicate what’s required in any situation.

Depending on the other features in your face, you might find it incredibly easy to voice your thoughts.

The downside to this is that others may call you “bossy” and you may share opinions when people don’t want to hear them.

Or easily conflate your opinion with an order, since you say things with such authority. This could rub some people up the wrong way.

Does this sound like you or anyone you know?

Change is always a moment away.

Change is always a moment away.

Whether that’s change in yourself by changing your way of thinking or the love or your life walking through the door, or landing that perfect job.

There was always a moment when you didn’t and that was followed by a moment when you did.

The problem is, you never knew when that “did” moment was coming.

And the other problem is how we characterise change.

Our expectation is often a lightning bolt moment, which is the complete opposite to how change actually works in nature – slowly and gradually.

Autumn happens one leaf at a time before they fall one leaf at a time into Winter, and Spring happens one bud at a time.

Steady yourself, pace yourself, take baby steps.

It will happen, I promise

Reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s Patterns!

Yesterday I was listening to Elizabeth Gilbert talk with Marie Forleo. She was saying that “done is better than good.”

I’m completely bowled over as to how it fits with her design, the patterns in her birth date

Everyone of us has a challenge in life, a theme that is subtly interwoven time and time again.

For Gilbert this is perfectionism.

Her destiny speaks of a Queen, and the queen must always have the best in life.

But of course Queens are demanding but they are not finishers. The perfectionism cripples them.

Interestingly enough this contrasts with the other pattern she has – that of the Warrior.

In nature this is associated with Spring, the drive and the push of new life. Warriors are their strongest when they feel powerful, which often comes from getting shit done.

Now imagine, Queens order warriors to fight in wars and such and it’s similar with perfectionism/completing – the perfectionism always wins over completing.

The Queen wins over the Warrior because of her status.

But it sounds like we have a human being who has made peace with this lesson and found a balance

These observations are all made through Chinese face reading and an Asian system of birth date reading, all based in observing nature.

More on the morrow!!

The Field

“Out beyond ideas of wrong and right, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” Rumi

Sometimes judgements and arguments and the insistence that we are “right,” weigh us down. They lead nowhere.

Other times, especially if this is a war with the self, the “right” and “wrong” is pure resistance to whatever you want or how things are, or even frustration with how you are.

So what’s the release? Where is this “field”?

I cannot tell you where but I can tell you “how.”

The how is in kindness and compassion, the release comes from surrender or from understanding, a deep acceptance.

This is not easy.

We’ve been culturally conditioned that if we don’t like it, change it. That advice is good but it is awful if what we don’t like seems insurmountable or impossible to change.

Chinese medicine has a different way of looking at the world.

Closely connected to observing nature, what replaces wrong or right is, well, similar to seeing that the day is “sunny” or “wet.” And that’s it. No follow through of “awful rain” or “good sunshine.”

It is what it is.

And here we are, the field that Rumi spoke of.

If you’d like more tidbits on Chinese Medicine/Chinese face reading, like this page or investigate my website to book a reading www.circularfacereading.com.

Rhythms, cycles and Principles

I’ll repeat this until I die:

The Chinese intently observed nature and made this the foundation for their medicine.

These principles are the meaning of life. Yup. You read that correctly. In entire seriousness I mean it. So I said that it was based of nature, and nature, well, it changes shape and form across time. Have you heard of the Einstein quote that energy is never lost, it changes? That’s one way of explaining it. The different stages of energy as it changes are called different things and they have different qualities.

Imagine a clock.

At six we have the “element” Water. It is to do with winter, the embryo in the womb, potential, the unseen, the unexpected, creativity, being, floating, the abyss, death, the ancestors, the other side, intuition, chaos, destruction (flooding), bravery, stubbornness. The emotion associated with water is fear, not anxiety or worry, but a paralysing deep terror.

At eight we have the element Wood. It is do with springtime, the child rushing around, it transforms the dreams of water into matter, so it has associations with plans, organisation, order, growth, but as growth can be blocked (like plants in spring blocked by frozen soil) its emotion is anger, exasperation, frustration, pressure. Also, doing is associated with this element, action, impatience, as well as thunder, the wind, the warrior, competitiveness, shame, problem solving, judgement. Wood features are blocky, square – so strong jawline, indented temples, square hairline, strong brow bone, strong eyebrows.

At midday we have the element Fire. It is do with summer, the prime of your life, fun, thrills, wit, flippancy, emotions, love, the open heart – but also the vulnerability of the heart – also quickness, flirtation, scorching remarks, gossip, creativity of a quick spur of the moment kind, drama queen. Everything in full bloom. The emotion associated with Fire is over-excitement, exuberance, which can lead to being scattered, erratic, anxious. At the most extreme, panic attacks. Fire features are pointed, pricks and tips of things, curls (esp. red and curly), dimples.

At two we have the element Earth. It is to with early autumn, harvest, middle age, kindness, patience, friendliness, the mother, grounded, neediness, self pitying, overprotective, over supportive, generosity, modesty, dependency, feeding. The emotion associated with Earth is worry (as they care so much and are other focused.) Earthy features are cushy, thick and soft, an overall plumpness.

At five we have the element Metal. It is to do with late autumn, old age, grief, sorrow, sensitivity, arrogance, criticism (of self and others), pride, idealism, visionary, heaven, the sacred, having high standards, ethereality, graciousness, authenticity, inflexibility, perfectionism, detail focused, the father. The emotion associated with Metal is grief, the issue of revisiting loss time and time again, only to relive it and not move forward. Anxiety is also associated with Metal (different from Fire) as it’s a worry to get things “right” and “perfect.” Metal features are bony and sculpted – prominent nose, regal posture, paleness, concave lower cheeks, prominent upper cheeks, a fine bone structure.

Of course this is so very simplistic. I’ve tailored it to reflect personality, but you can apply this is anything! A meal – water, thinking about the meal, dreaming it. Wood, doing it, planning it, buying ingredients. Fire, cooking it! Earth, feeding time and Metal clearing it away. It can be applied to sexual encounters, stories, your day at work, the years! Anything!

I don’t want to say what features are associated with each element, which eyebrows are fiery, which nose is earthy, because that’s an entire blog in itself. Rather, I hope, that this is background enough.

If you’re eagle eyed you’ll have noticed that I have all five elements “behind” every logo.

More on the morrow.

Face-Body-Mind Connection

When you look at your face, what do you see?
 
You’ll probably see your mother or father or a scar that you got from the time you were twelve. And maybe even a wrinkle or two.
 
A Chinese face reader will see it differently.
 
They’ll see in your nose how hard you work, your thinking style and your 20’s in your forehead, your generosity and relationship to your mother in your lips.
 
And whatsmore, they’ll see the external expression of who you are and will guide you to match your internal with your external life.
 
As I’ve said before, your face is an expression of nature as much as any mountain, tree or lake.
 
We all know what a tree needs to be a tree, what if you could be told what you needed to be more “you”?
 
Many people think face reading is a parlour trick to manipulate or judge someone.
 
It’s based on the same ancient science as acupuncture, feng shui and traditional Chinese medicine. As far back as 600 BC mentions of face reading have been found in texts.
 
It was developed with the holistic belief that each part of the body represents the entire body.
 
That the face is a perfect indicator of the health of the entire body, the health of every organ is mirrored in a part of the face.
 
In China, doctors were not allowed to touch women so face reading became a vital tool.
 
They also believed that the mind and body exist in a circle of interaction. The physical and mental are inseparable.
 
No one regrets physically exercising and the emotional high afterwards. Everyone has noticed that a bad mood makes a bad day and dressing well can perk your mental well being.
 
Then according to Chinese medicine, bad emotional health will correlate to an unhealthy body.
 
As such, if you came to Chinese face reader with health complaints, they’ll be able to point out where the emotional imbalances or the belief pattern that may have caused the problem.
 
So as face reading can be used for health diagnosis, it can be used to evaluate emotional struggles and the people you’ll be attracted to and the work you’ll enjoy.
 
I’ll make a disclaimer here. I do not work with diagnosis, my primary work through face reading is with the spirit.
 
So this another part of what face reading is about, the belief in the face-mind-body connection and matching the internal to the external and vice versa.
 
This is it for today’s post. I can’t get into the “how” just yet but hopefully this has provided more insight. More info on the morrow.
 

Eastern/Western Language/Culture

I’ve promised to get into the “stuff” behind Chinese Face reading, and I will. This is a second post in a series dedicated to this topic.

Today I’m not going to discuss faces or face reading.

I’m going to talk about language.

There’s a reason why a western audience is more skeptical about acupuncture or Buddhism or Reiki or meditation. And it’s a very simple answer.

A language is simply a way of structuring reality, taking the formless unspoken and making it formed and spoken.

Everywhere in the world has a different approach.

In Western languages we prefer our sentences as subject object verb. Subject object and verb.

It’s a very direct approach isn’t?

Our medical treatments are in turn direct. If we have a cold the doctor will treat it with a cold medicine. Chemotherapy in the form of gamma rays will be directed at the tumor.

For the most part, and I can only speak of English culture, because of this direct sentence structure much stress and importance is placed on the tangible and external world. You may have heard at some point “it’s all in your head” as way to disregard your emotions.

Another side effect of this sentence structure is that it encourages us to think in opposites, duality.

When you read the above paragraph you might have been expecting that somewhere in this article I will write “Eastern culture values the intangible and internal” since I wrote the opposite for Western culture.

I make no claims to know Chinese or any other Eastern languages, but I know some characters of ancient Chinese.

One thing I find striking is this: they communicate in characters. Pictures.

In ancient Chinese the character for “sun” was a circle with a dot in the middle. Mountain was three small triangles growing out of a line.

To indicate a forest you’d draw the character for tree three times.

To indicate a prisoner you’d draw the character for man and then draw a box around it.

A picture speaks a thousand words, right?

If a language speaks in pictures, is it any wonder that the culture and it’s thinking will produce something entirely different?

There won’t be a person alive who doesn’t know that sometimes, the direct approach misses out.

Another thought which is not in Western culture is that everything is interconnected and interdependent.

We know that the Earth depends on the Sun, we all do, for food, warmth, the seasons. A child depends on its’ parents.

Then maybe it should not be so surprising that the ancient Chinese had the minds to notice all the different links between us all and everything when they communicated in pictures?

Tomorrow I’ll expand on this point of language and link it to the Western tradition of face reading.